Battlefield + Love = ?????

We take a moment from this political econimical debate and bitching to discuss family.

They say opposites attract, and in my life there is no statment more representative of my life with my lovely wife. I’ll tell you what it’s her opposition that makes me a better person. I hope I do the same for her, but sometimes I wonder if I help or just plain annoy. The PTSD doesn’t seem to help the situation of great disagreement.

But I divert:

Many don’t know this but when it comes to my wife and I, we are completely backwards. I come from Kansas, she comes from New York and our lifestyles and values growing up couldn’t be more night and day. But I’ll tell you what, I have learned alot from this woman and as pissy as I get I wouldn’t trade her in for anything.

What I have Learned

So here is where I am going with this, sometimes our opposition is in the same direction. We fight hard to show we are right only to realize we are saying the SAME THING. It’s those times after the fact and the heated debates, that we can laugh at ourselves and eachother.

Politics: 

Sometimes we are on the same page. This election year we are not. But I have grown because of this. Look I think Trump is friggin’ hilarious and yeah he’s got my vote. I like his blunt tweets and ability to get under the skin of all liberals everywhere. I appreciate what he’s done for the country in 4 years what others could not complete in their entire political career. Mostly I love the fact that he is NOT a politician. You bitch about politicians then argue that he’s not acting like a politician (he’s immature, he shouldn’t tweet like that, he’s a loose cannon) That’s what I like about the boy.

My wife, however, thinks he’s an asshole! She hates how cocky he is. She feels he should be much more professional than he is. And she feels a bit embarassed of his behaviour and how other countries view us because of this.

ALL VALID COMPLAINTS

None of these are bullshit complaints, it comes down to the things I love about Mr. President, she hates about Mr. President. I can’t blame her though I give her enough outbursts and non filtered mouth she doesn’t need or want it from anyone else.

At the same time it is a disagreement that makes her worried that I am going to get pissed and fly off the handle. I am not and

Here is why…

The great thing about America is the fact that we can have differing opinions and still love eachother. The fact that I can say whatever the hell I want and it’s not what my wife would say because ya know what? She has her own set of values and viewpoints. Growing up differently, especially growing up differently, affects our perspective on outside events and people. 

My question I guess is this, if two married people can feel differently about a political issue such as who to vote for, and still live a great wonderful life filled with love for eachother and for our children, then why can’t others disagree without reverting to downright disgust and hatred for eachother?

Prior to Marriage

I was a way different person, you vote for the other guy you’re a dumbass and why do you even get to vote if you’re that retarded? I’m not the same guy. I’ve been to war 3 times, I’ve seen shit nobody wants to see, I’ve done things to make it safer here, and when I get back I realize it’s the ability to disagree that makes this country strong. 

I am ashamed of how the disagreements have been lately. Burning buildings and businesses down. Breaking shit that doesn’t belong to the vandals who break it. Americans work hard for what they have and some immature asshole goes and burns it down. why??? WTF is wrong with people that you can’t disagree and still be civil?

There is ALOT!

Alot alot of things that I disagree with. And some I remove my filter and tell you what an asshole and dumbass you really are. After that I’m done. I’m not going to take it into hatred, I’m not going to burn your house down because of it, and I’m not going to prepare for the apocolypse because you feel differently than me and the worlds gone to shit because of it.

Look around people

There are lots of things to love and enjoy. There are lots of hard times. Nobody out there is free from struggles and joys. In my masters degree I studied alot of the history of governments and countries and I have come to the conclusion that there are going to be leaders we love, and leaders who make us ashamed. There are people wo do GREAT things, and people who do HORRID things. You know… it’s the whole good vs. evil thing. There is a God, therefore there is good and there is evil. I have seen both believe me. 

Ultimately, how I handle things is this. I try to come back to… what is it that is in MY control?

• I choose who I vote for.
• I make decisions I feel best for my family.
• I work to get my family food and shelter.

all of these are in my hands. Then there are the things I cannot control…

• I cannot control who other people vote for (and I wouldn’t want to, that would completly ruin the great country we have by me pushing my stuff on others)
• I cannot control the economy (frankly me spending 20 bucks on gas doesn’t affect the world commerce much)
• I cannot control the weather
• I cannot control the politicians
• I cannot even control who the candidates ARE. I got two choices and vote for the least of the evils. I think that if we as Americans could have a write-in win we would but that’s not reality. Reality you vote for one of two sides, if you vote for a 3rd you’re really not voting at that point. 

It’s like if I ask my kids “do you want taco’s or burgers?” and they say “OHHH CHICKEN!” that’s not an option. I’m going to taco bell or mcdonalds because it’s close and we’re hungry I’m not driving to the chicken place. So I’ll pick for you. 

Finally…

I’ll leave it with this,

• Ups and downs are a thing in life. We will experience all of them.
• Even if who we vote for today doesn’t win, there’s only so much that can get fucked up in 4 years and by then there’s other issues to pretend are important.
• The sky is NOT falling there chicken little.

Finally, most importantly.

Evil will never win the war. Maybe a few battles here and there, but God wins in the end.  All I can do is be greatful for a wonderful life, a wonderful wife, awesome kids, food, shelter, water, and God will take care of all the other bullshit. I just need to focus on treating people okay, even if they are a dumbass. God told us, it’s not my job to judge, it’s not my job to condemn anyone to hell. Those are all in God’s lane, so why stress myself over any of it. Treat people the way you want to be treated and love God above all things. 

My wife and I may disagree, but we dissagree with the little shit in life that’s not in our control anyways. 😉 I do love my life!

Quote from my daddy: The word is round, we will get there eventually.